Before I start, I should admit that I do not have a perfect marriage. We have had our ups and downs like any other marriage but the way in which I respond to certain situations has changed significantly. My wife and I are quickly approaching two years of marriage together and I think I can honestly say that I have figured out the secret to having a perfect marriage.
Having a perfect marriage, family or even relationship with God really boils down to one thing, which is to make time for communication. I personally know people that talk to me about finding time to lose weight and I see them a year later and they haven’t lost a single pound. I had an epiphany the other day that finding time and making time for something are two entirely different concepts.
The difference between the two is that one is based on thought and the other is based on action. When we get around to talking to our spouse, they are left with the dregs of our time, energy, and affection. The only way to accomplish successful communication is to schedule it into your chaotic day.
Make time to pray and read the Bible in the morning. Make time to talk to your husband or wife about a major financial decision. Schedule a time to talk with your son or daughter about what is really going on in their life. When you do this, you are ascribing value to the relationship. This alone will have a dramatic and long-lasting positive impact.
Christ was the only one to ever be perfect. As Christians we are called to be Christ-like, which means that, we are to strive for perfection in our relationships. Inevitably, we will fail from time to time to meet the standards that have been put before us. The best thing about God is that he is a graceful and patient proctor and hopefully we will get another opportunity to take the relationship test again tomorrow.